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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
Brother's behavior
Answered by
Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D. - Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Crisis Intervention
Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
This forum is for questions and support regarding child behavior issues such: Child Discipline (behavior management), Normal Child Development, Parent-Child Communications, Social Development
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Brother's behavior
by shubunkin, Aug 15, 2002 12:00AM
Hello, I have a 14 year old brother who is totally out of control. We are at our wits end with him. He has been this way since early childhood and we kept hoping he would get better with ade but this is not happening. I am no longer living in the household but he lives with my dad and sister. He tells my dad to shutup, to go to hell, and multiple other things. He does nothing to help out around the house and when my dad asks him to he refuses. It is like he runs the household. There are no reason for this behavior. We were all brought up in a loving household with both parents until my mother recently died of cancer. I am sure this is hard on him but he certainly shows no emotions towards it. And like I stated he has been like this since earlt childhood. We are all worn out over this and I am at the point where I can not stand to be around him. I am afraid when we are that his attitude is rubbing off on my 7 year old and that will not be tolerated. We do not understand where this anger is comeing from and we have a very supportive family. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou.
Doctor's Answer
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Aug 15, 2002 12:00AM
, Aug 15, 2002 12:00AM
Your brother is likely displaying the symptoms of an emotional disorder (most likely possibilities are depressive disorder or bipolar disorder, or disruptive behavior disorder). It would benefit him to be evaluated by a mental health professional who specializes in the treatment of adolescents. With a combination of therapy, medication and parent guidance, the situation can improve. Without such help, the situation will likely not change.
Member Comments (4)
by darkdesire, Aug 23, 2002 12:00AM
does ur brother have any friends,is a loner or something....is he into sports tht really helps in controlling such behaviour....if ur in good terms with him,,,,,or anybody u knw sort it out immediately....this may not lead to something good if not helped now
by Mrs. T, Aug 24, 2002 12:00AM
I also have a 14 year old who is going through the same as yours, but just with not so much of a degree. The thing that I found most helping, was not just the counseling for him, but for the family. These are people who learn and communicate differently, so instead, I found it helpful for the entire family to get couseling in order to better understand what it is that we are dealing with. Through couseling, we all have learned how to commuicate better with him, and how we can help him become a member of society. The best defense is an offense. He socializes better, and has actually started displaying recongnition of his actions. But this does take time, and commitment from all in the family. You will see (as my husband likes to call them) "flashes" of improvement. You will learn how to use your words, which in turn will only encourage him to go on. I think it's great that you care so much for your brother. Hang in there.
by vulture159, Sep 11, 2002 12:00AM
to anyone with kids on adderall it does work but to a certain extent, your child will still have compulsive behavior tho, i know my child is 15 yrs. old and i came to a point where i thought that i would have to have him committed. he was still very compulsive along with violent tendencies. i have a sister who is bipolar and adhd she is 38 yrs. old but still has her mental faculties she just couldn't control them without medication , as exist with my son i put him on paxil in the evening and he takes his adderall in the morning so far this combo has been working. to anybody else that is having these similar problems you might ask your doctor about this i had to my doctor did not volunteer this info i just kept looking for a way after all i'm not going to stop where my own child is concerned i'll keep yall posted to anyone who is interested.
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