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Miss Diagnosis of Missed Abortion?

by Melissa O, Sep 18, 2003 12:00AM
I went in for my prenatal appointment on August 11th and was told I had probably had a missed abortion.  I wasn't for sure of my last menstural date, but I told the Dr. that I thought it was July 8th.  By that date, they assumed I was 9 weeks and 2 days.  When they did the ultrasound, they said my fetus was the size of a 6 week fetus and that I was more than likely going to miscarry.  I have had no bleeding, spotting, or cramping.  My breasts are still VERY sore and I am still extremely tired.  Could it be possible that my dates are completely wrong and that I am not as far along as the doctors thing?  What is everyone's experience with being missed diagnosed as a missed abortion?  PLEASE HELP!!! I have a D&C scheduled for Tuesday after my second sonogram on Monday.  If there is any hope at all, please let me know.  I have pretty much already come to terms that I have miscarried, but any reassurance would help.  Thank you.
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by chevyjewel, Sep 18, 2003 12:00AM
If you don't feel comfortable going through with the procedure then don't do it. Unless there's some health reason you have to have this done, then put it on hold. I wouldn't go through with it until I was convinced I wasn't going to wonder for the rest of my life, what might have been. Have you voiced your concerns to your doctor? What does he/she say? Listen to your heart, it'll tell you what to do. Please keep us updated, you're in my prayers!

by nickpooh2319, Sep 18, 2003 12:00AM
I completly agree.  If you think there is a possibility that the dates are messed up or anything talk it over with your doctor.  As long as your not having any problems I don't see the need to rush into it.  Best wishes.



Nikki

by Melissa O, Sep 18, 2003 12:00AM
My doctor doesn't sound very convinced that this may be a mistake.  She said there is a VERY small possiblity that I haven't miscarried, but I can tell by her tone and her voice that she isn't optimistic.  I asked her about testing my hcg levels, and she said that test can not really tell you anything because the ranges of normal are so vast.  She seems very technical and not much of a people person.  I don't like how she doesn't even assume the possibility that I might have my dates off.  I just would like to hear from anyone who has had this happen to them where the doctors said they were having a miscarriage and then turned out not to.  It would really help me decide whether to give in or still have some hope.

by nickpooh2319, Sep 18, 2003 12:00AM
I have never had anything like that happen but when my mother was pregnant she went in and by the date she gave the doctor of her lmp they thought they would beable to hear the heart beat they couldn't find it and told her she needed to have an u/s (this is how she lost her previous pregnancy) anyways she had an ultra sound and it turns out she was wrong on the dates so by her next appt. they did hear a heart beat and everything was fine.  This is just what happened to my mother but if I were you I would probably get another opinion from a diffrent doctor since you don't sound to thrilled with the one you have.  Your doctor should make you feel comfortable with the decision your making.  I hope everything goes well for you :)

by jane24, Sep 18, 2003 12:00AM
My sister in law had something like that..

Her doctor told her she was going to miscarry.

That she had a choice to take something that would help her abort it and go have a d&c.She went to a specialist to have a d&c and they checked her out first and she was told that the baby was fine...

She now has a healthy baby girl...



She calls her miracle baby...she had many problems...

by TanteMilly, Sep 18, 2003 12:00AM
I think this advice so far is good advice. If there is no reason to have the D&C for a little bit, then wait. When I was pregnant with my first it was around the time that I was getting married. My last period was February 9th and when my wedding rolled around (March8th) I still hadn't had it. I found out three weeks later that I was pregnent (surprise) and he was definetely a honeymoon baby. The doctor didn't want to believe me when I said I know I'm not as far along as my dates say (he was also small for what they thought he should have been) but the reason I know this is that we refrained from any sex for two months prior to the wedding. Stress, and many other factors can affect your body. Wait, make sure, then you won't have to second guess yourself. I wish you all the best!!! Hang in there okay?!

by chevyjewel, Sep 18, 2003 12:00AM
It never hurts, expecially in a situation like this, to get a second opinion. Maybe you'll come across a doctor that can explain what's going on better. If you feel uncomfortable telling your doc your concerns or that you want to wait, in my opinion, that's a sign you need a new one. I've never had a missed abortion but I certainly know the importance of an understanding doctor for when things get complicated. It doesn't hurt to check around :)

by HopeinAl, Sep 18, 2003 12:00AM
i am so sorry you are going thru this, i was in your shoes 2 weeks ago and it's hell i know. I don' know if this wil help much but jsut let me tell you what i know. I have a friend that is Pregnant and had a transvaginal u/s every week starting at 5 weeks and they didn't see a heartbeat until she was 9 weeks.her baby is fine she's aound 20 weeks now I think. I know that they can see it at 5 or 6 weeks, but according to her story that's not written in stone!  In my situation i had an ultrasound at 6weeks 2days adn there was no fetal heartbeat(i was SURE about my lmp though!) and i told my doc to give it another week and when i wnet back in there still was no heartbeat. I still had all my symptoms and no signs of miscarriage.  so then i accepted it and scheduled my D&C for two days later. it's good that your having another u/s to make sure, because it's like the people on this forum told me- it could change in amatter of hours. your baby's heart could start beating and you could be off on your days adn that would make a huge difference. I'll be praying for you and your baby.HOPe

by momof2princesses, Sep 18, 2003 12:00AM
I agree with the rest of the ladies, I had a m/c in August and I was bleeding and all but they still tested my blood a couple of times and did a u/s to make sure that it was indeed a m/c. I would rather be sure than wonder for the rest of my life. I'd get a second opinion too. Don't give up yet, YOu could be starting off slow or off on your dates, wait until you have your ultrasound and get more blood work done to see what your levels are doing. Good luck and try to rest!! Kendra

by msklar, Sep 18, 2003 12:00AM
Its very possible your dates are off. I have heard of women who get extremly close to getting a d&c and find out the baby is fine just in time. They cannot force you to have the procedure, And if you have the slightest bit of doubt dont go through with it....Doctors are human too, and they make mistakes..I hope everything turns out well for you..

by Berny, Sep 19, 2003 12:00AM
To: Melissa O
Don't have a d/c. Let it happen naturally. I just had a d/c at 8 weeks and can't get over the fact that I should of waited at least one more week. The girls here all seem to think that just maybe the little guy was slow or maybe your just off on your dates...or the Dr is off on his dates. Just wait...I wish with all my heart that I did....just like everyone else said "at least you would have no regrets". Good luck! And heres some of that baby dust everyone keeps talking about.

by suzyq82, Sep 19, 2003 12:00AM
Hi,



I had a missed miscarriage in July 2001 at 9 weeks. I had my first ultrasound at 6 and  a half weeks and saw the babies heartbeat, the little prongs for arms and legs, my little jellybean. A week later I had some bleeding, it wasn't normal bleeding though, it was like old blood. ( sorry for the gory details) I didn't have any cramping or anything. I rnag my dr and he said that some bleeding can be normal but scheduled me in for another ultrasound a week later. During the week I waited I had some more bleeding but then it stopped. I felt fine and was sure the baby was fine too. My hopes were up high.



When I went in for the next ultrasound sure that my baby was fine they said to me that it hadn't grown. I was still the size of a six and a half week old baby. My heart was destroyed. I couldn't believe it, everyone told me it was going to be fine and to listen to myself, I thought I knew my own body, but it lied to me. I felt like I had a graveyard womb. I had to carry this dead baby inside me for another 2 weeks before they could schedule me in for a D&C. Those 2 weeks sent me mad.



I am not saying this to scare you or try to mean in any way, but if you do put it off not only can it be harmful for yourself the longer it stays in you but it can destroy you emotionally too knowing what is inside and what was. Trust me! I know have a healthy baby boy 5 months and although I still morn the loss of my baby, I know that now it was a blessing in disguise for all of us. This happens for a reason, your baby could have been born with a life threating illness like dowynse syndrome and you have to ask yourself if you are ready for not only a healthy baby but possibly a sick baby too?



My prayers are with you through this hard time, but please do not give up hope of a healthy baby when you and your body are ready.



Kind Regards,



suzyq82

by HopeinAl, Sep 19, 2003 12:00AM
Listen, i just want to be real with you. I do think you should wait and get that other u/s to make sure. IF you don't see the hb then ask them about the growth. that's what idid and the news wasn't good for me, but anyway once you are sure, i recommed highly a D&C , i have done this both ways, and doing at home on the toilet is hell. having the d&C is much better on you emotionally and physically too. Also, don't put it off if your sure, idid that too and it was sO bad on me. Just make sure before you do anything, but go the easiest route on this.

by msklar, Sep 20, 2003 12:00AM
I had to reiterate that I believe it is better to know for sure that there is not a viable baby, rather than only a maybe. Losing a baby is hard no matter what the circumstances. I carried a baby for 2 weeks without knowing it had died. I ended up with a d&c but I was 14 weeks along and sure that the baby had died. You are so early in the pregnancy that a mistake could  have been made. It is better than rushing into something and always wondering if you have done the right thing. At least if your positive the baby is no longer viable you can go ahead with the d&c.

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