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A Terrible Week
by Beargizmo, Nov 27, 2008 04:46PM
I've been away for a week...last thursday afternoon we got a call from my older son that my youngest was found not breathing...aspirated...and rushed by ambulance to the hospital where he died twice in the ambulance...they brought him back and lost him in the ER and brought him back...but it quickly became obvious that he was not in good shape...my son said "you'd better get down here NOW" (Atlanta, we live in NH)..we had 2 hours to pack and get to the airport..got to the hospital and he was on dyalisis, breathing and feeding tubes and all sorts of stuff..we slept at the hospital for 3-4 nights, getting some encouragement from the lung doctors that he was doing better...but Sunday afternoon the brain specialist confirmed what we knew.....Scott was not there and wasn't coming back....his brain was dead. So as a family we opted to have life support terminated, after all saying goodbyes...and within 2 minutes he was gone..we had his funeral Tuesday night...
He suffered from severe depression most of his life, had a drug problem that thanks to NA he overcame....there may be some from NA who knew Scott reading herer and I again offer you my thanks...and he felt he had no friends, though the church was packed...SRO..with people who loved him...it sounds cliche but he was just on the edge of getting it together....he worked at a restaurant called Rosies Diner in Acworth GA and they loved them, and let me say those people did more to lift my spirits than anyone...and if anyone from here is in that area...please stop by there and have a meal...they need the support, are run by a group of Christians and many people in the same boat as us...
Scott is at peace now...his demons are gone...his pain is gone...it's devastating losing a chiild...one thing to lose friends, uncles, aunts, etc....but this is just devastating...
Folks..I'll say the same thing I said to those at the church Tuesday night....if you are wrestling with those demons, the anger, the pain, the depression, please make a promise to Scott that you will seek out help, from friends who love you, from a pastor, priest, etc, doctor, anyone...there are people who love you and want to help.
I have Scott's ashes (well, some of them here) so he will always be with me, but my heart is broken and will be for some time
please do one more thing for me....if you have kids...grab them and hold them, and hug them, be there for them...and love them...
God Bless
Jim
He suffered from severe depression most of his life, had a drug problem that thanks to NA he overcame....there may be some from NA who knew Scott reading herer and I again offer you my thanks...and he felt he had no friends, though the church was packed...SRO..with people who loved him...it sounds cliche but he was just on the edge of getting it together....he worked at a restaurant called Rosies Diner in Acworth GA and they loved them, and let me say those people did more to lift my spirits than anyone...and if anyone from here is in that area...please stop by there and have a meal...they need the support, are run by a group of Christians and many people in the same boat as us...
Scott is at peace now...his demons are gone...his pain is gone...it's devastating losing a chiild...one thing to lose friends, uncles, aunts, etc....but this is just devastating...
Folks..I'll say the same thing I said to those at the church Tuesday night....if you are wrestling with those demons, the anger, the pain, the depression, please make a promise to Scott that you will seek out help, from friends who love you, from a pastor, priest, etc, doctor, anyone...there are people who love you and want to help.
I have Scott's ashes (well, some of them here) so he will always be with me, but my heart is broken and will be for some time
please do one more thing for me....if you have kids...grab them and hold them, and hug them, be there for them...and love them...
God Bless
Jim
I am so sorry, you are in my thougths and prayers. That is one of the worse pains, to lose a child. take care and pm me if you need to talk.
Karen
I am soo very sorry for your loss. Having no childen myself I can't imagine the pain you are feeling. Just reading your post my heart dropped. I am here for you if you need someone. I am so, so sorry for the loss of your son.
I will keep you and your entire family in my Prayers getting through this.....
Love & Prayers.........
Nauty...............
Much love to you. XO XO XO XO XO
Prayers sent................
My prayers are with you and your family, I am not sure what I would do if I lost one of my boys, my heart is breaking for you. May God give you comfort and help ease your pain.
It's going to be tough, a difficult holiday season because there are so many memories of the holidays with him and his brother. But, I'll get through it, I'm sure and the pleasant memories will remain...
I cannot say enough kind words for the folks at the hospital in Kennesaw, GA (suddenly I can't remember the name)....but they were absolutely wonderful
Thank you all again.
Jim
We will keep you in our prayers..
ng
there is no greater peace than being with Our Lord, Our Heavenly Father. what a wonderful day it will be when you are reunited...when your son welcomes you to Our Father's side.
i pray for God's healing hands to come down and touch the lives of you, your family, and all those that loved your son.
kim
http://www.fatheralexander.org/booklets/english/life_after_death.htm#n3
Maro
Magi